A Letter to all of the Momma’s
With Mother’s Day approaching us, I know this can be a triggering topic for some. Those who are wanting to be mothers, those who have lost their mothers, those who never had a mother figure present enough to look up to. With that being said, I still wanted to honor all of the motherly figures. Since I work in the restaurant industry, I am always working on mother’s day. This year is no different. I asked my mom a couple of days ago what she wanted to do for mothers day and she said “nothing”. I’m sure part of this is because I am working and won’t be able to spend the day with her (her love language is quality time) . Another part of this I’m sure has to do with the fact that she lost her mother at the age of 25 while she was pregnant with me. Mother’s Day is a mixture of emotions around here. While this may be true, I find it necessary to celebrate all of the moms out there. This blog post is a tribute to my Grandma, the beautiful soul I never met but whose spirit radiates through my favorite person on this planet…. my momma!
For those of you who know my mom, you know she is the most compassionate person but also is as fierce as they come. She loves her work. She is probably the most empathetic human I’ve ever known. She see’s someone crying, and she will start crying. If you’re having a bad day, she can feel that in her soul. I believe this is what gives her the ability to connect to so many people. If you know my mom, her mind is always working to connect people and bring them together. She’s a connector. Growing up, and even still to this day, my mom will talk about her childhood and how she grew up. I am astonished she survived what she did. Perhaps that is where her strength comes from. Women, the ultimate superpower.
They say when you become a mother, the love for your child is unlike any love you’ve ever experienced before. My mom will start crying just thinking about the day I was born. She’s probably already crying right now reading this post. To all the moms reading this, I want you to know how much we (your children) appreciate you. How much we enjoy traveling with you. How much we enjoy building a business with you or learning how to cook from you. How much we enjoy working out with you. How much we enjoy shopping with you. How much we enjoy going out to eat with you. We cherish our long talks after we get home from work late at night or on the phone. We cherish all of the advice you’ve ever given us. You are in fact ALWAYS right. We thank you for being there for us when we weren’t the best sons or daughters. When we questioned your authority or when we would snap back at you. We thank you for teaching us how to be God fearing and how to put Jesus before anything else. We thank you for being the example of what it means to stick up for yourself, even if it means you may lose some friendships along the way. Please know that not one thing you do is taken for granted. The courage you demonstrate everyday by waking up and taking on the day despite your own battles is beyond inspiring. Thank you for pushing us. Thank you for seeing us. Thank you for being a shoulder when all we want to do is cry. Thank you for protecting us fiercely.
I can’t imagine the pain of losing a mother. I can’t imagine not having her present on your wedding day. I can’t imagine not being able to call her. What I do know, is that Mother’s Day should be a day to celebrate all maternal figures in our lives. The moms, the stepmoms, the bonus moms, the adoptive moms, the aunts who took on that role, the grandmothers who stepped in, the dads who play both mom and dad. We need you. We need your lessons, your scars, your contributions, your comfort, your discipline. To the women wanting to be moms. To the women who have lost moms. I know we don’t always express it the way we should but know how much of an impact you’ve had on us. We get our natural instincts from you. We get our compassion from you. We get our strength from you. We get our intuition from you. To all of the moms, we salute you. Happy Mother’s Day!
For those of you reading this who still have yet to get your mom something for mothers day, I have listed some thoughtful ideas for you below: You still have 3 days!
A gift-card to her favorite clothing store. (Online gift cards are easy to purchase and can be delivered to their email)
A picture of the two of you in a nice frame. (Walgreens photo app takes 2 seconds)
A home cooked meal. (Doesn’t have to be fancy. Order takeout!)
A spa day. (Or gift card for a future spa day)
Flowers. (Invest in a nice arrangement)
A movie night together. (I can’t think of a better time than now to binge watch a new series in a night or watch a new movie)
A handwritten letter. ( Something about handwritten hits different)
A book. (If she enjoys reading. Knowing her favorite hobbies is always a good start. DO NOT buy a book if she hates reading)
Skin care!!! (This is always a huge hit. If you need suggestions, I’m here for you!)
Workout together or any kind of quality time. (What’s her love language? Quality Time, Gifts, Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Physical Touch)
